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Well, since it is Black History Month maybe now would be a good time to post this blog which I started in 2009 but never, for some reason or other never came back to. Can’t remember what prompted me to begin it in the first place. Though I must say along with Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Coretta Scott King, Bernice Reagan, Merle Evers, Harriette Tubman, Sojourna Truth, my Mother, Grand-mothers, Great Grand-mother, Mrs. Parks, as in Rosa… and half a dozen others… if not more women I have always admired… I celebrate them all. And if I keep thinking I am sure that I can come up with a few more… like O. J. Simpson’s first wife.
You may asked why I have O. J.’s first ex-wife on my list… it is simply that I admired her for taking the high road in all that mess. Out of all of O. J.’s supposed friends and colleagues… judges and lawyers everybody went for the money. They sold O. J. out every which way they could sell him. That is to say everybody except for his first wife. She never took 1 dime or ever came out against him. Never wrote a book… never signed a book deal… and she denied almost every offer for an interview. Though I am sure that she could have had a lot to say… but she chose the high road… the side of ‘to do him no harm.’
So, women like that… or people like that I can admire without any level of hesitation. Because most people today will sell you down the river for a dime… a promotion… or whatever else is up for grabs. And I am not being cynical.
Relationships… family bonds… friendships… you name it and they can all be tossed to the wind if somebody comes in with the right price. And sometimes that prices doesn’t even necessarily have to even be actual money. It can be a position… a title… an automobile… property… status… and phoney friendship… whatever the other side is in need of or looking for.
This is one of biggest and most saddest things about the world and people who live in it today. Had Jesus still been alive today he might have had to worry about more than 1 Judas… but maybe 6… 8 or 11 of them.
Everybody loves you while there is something to be gained in their association of you. In the Bible it appears that Job was a very popular man until he lost everything including his health. So, I guess it can be said that people have been the same throughout history. Was it not Caesar who said ‘et tu, Butus?’
It was not a secret that Malcolm X was the Honorable Elijah Muhammad, the founder and religious leader of the National of Islam, right-hand-man and 2nd in command. In fact, Malcolm had become the front man for the organization… he was the voice and the face of the organization at that time.
Malcolm X, Malcolm Little the name given to him by his mother, was such an eloquent speaker and possessed such great charisma that the Nation of Islam grew greatly under him. A thing that I am sure was celebrated in the beginning of their relationship between him and Mr. Muhammad… but later it became a source of contention between the 2 …as Mr. Muhammad saw Malcolm X’s power and authority growing among the ranks of the followers in his organization.
And then Malcolm went to Mecca and everything really changed between them. When I was in high school I recall buying a book called the “Autobiography of Malcolm X” …that book really intrigued me. I had not known anything about him until I read that book.
I guess I should invest more time in reading about our historical icons… and those who are little known. Their contributions were great and should not be overlooked… while we make millionaires of only writers of fiction.
I really cannot remember what prompted me to begin this blog… or why I entitled it ‘Bettye & Malcolm X?’
But there had to have been a reason. But since really I cannot at this time remember the reason… I have decided to just go ahead and post this blog anyway as a tribute to Black History Month 2013… I hope you enjoy it.
I celebrate all the heroic women and men who make up our history. Who endured, sacrificed… bleed… were spat upon… whooped… beat… stomped… dogs sicked upon… hit with forceful waters from water hydrants… who were made widowed or orphan… chained… tarred and feathered… and those who died. I celebrated them all… including those who felt it worthy to die over just being called a belittling word that started with that letter ‘N’ … that I might walk and sit… and eat and sleep… and live… and go to school etc… where I want to.
I will not forget… nor can I ever repay the debt by which they have endowed me… my family… my son… my nieces and nephews… our families… our history and our legacy for generations to come. Providing us with much pride… dignity… courage that must be passed on to all our children.
It is Black History Month… and I am happy to celebrate all of our she-ro’s and hero’s… and there are many many many many of them. And I thank God for each and every one of them.
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Demoted to looking like a prison inmate at Riker’s Island or Sing-Sing…out in the yard lifting weights…in the nude. Tiger is finding out first hand just how much everybody in the media world…and maybe in the world of golf really loves him. Like the old saying goes-
You really never find out who your friends are until when you are down.
I had thought to finally say something on Tiger Woods today…but this photo really motivated me to certainly do so. I am really feeling bad for him. For 1 thing …because his number 1 support and person that he turned to…his father passed and left him a few years ago now. So, who does he have that he can turn to…to talk to?
I don’t know?
But clearly he needs a voice with wisdom who can speak to him as a friend and confidant. Because when it has all been said and done…Tiger is still pretty much just a kid. And you can clearly tell that by some of the decisions that he has made lately.
And what a bad time for such a stupid magazine cover and photos of him to pop up. Clearly that photographer was no friend of his. But it just goes to show you that when you are down the vultures will start circling you like half dead road kill…closing in the finish off the job.
The truth be told…none of them ever really like seeing a black man with a white woman. Particularly…a black man with lots and lots…and lots of money…more money than them. And he didn’t get it pimping or selling drugs…or being a rapper?
Though Tiger does not consider himself black…or African American…but a mixture of several other things…he may well yet get to know that his real problem is much like that of what Ojay’s was…as in Simpson.
I am sure that you still remember him. How could you forget Ojay?
I spent many hours…days and nights…months…a couple of years maybe…watching television staying up biting my nails with each of the episodes and turns of his story…and as they unfolded. When I hit LA…was I not treated to a visit of that infamous house and street where everything happened?
He was well loved too…and though I never thought of it before …he had plenty of endorsements too. But of course…Tiger endorsements far exceed anything that poor ol’ Ojay could have ever hoped for. But they also have one other thing in common…and that is… being black men who love white women. And perferably…blonde.
“When did all of this start?”
I wondered if it came about as some backlash or need out of lost following the pasting of his father. Which I know it had to have been a pretty big blow…devastating blow and lost to Tiger. Being that they were so close.
Though I offer no excuses for Tiger or his lack of discretions or wise thinking concerning his involvement with several women outside of his marriage. No, I would never do that…as I do feel that marriage is something sacred. And should be treated as such.
But men do some dumb things.
If you have a good woman…what in the street is going to make you ruin your good thing?
And not that I know that was the problem between Shaq and his wife…but it was for ‘the Donald’ and for Michael.
How do you mess up your family life like that?
How can your mind be thinking so uncorrectly?
Evidently, Tiger never read anything about what had happened to actor Morgan Freeman once he had his accident, and information was disclosed to his wife about him riding around in their car with some girlfriend…who was injured in that accident too. No, Tiger could not have read that story. Because if he had…I am so sure that Tiger might not have found himself in this position which he currently is in.
Morgan Freeman’s wife didn’t even wait 24 hours before she hit him with the divorce papers…bright and early…before day break the following morning after Morgan’s crashing his car…and having to be pulled out of it via the aid of the ‘Jaws of Life’...with his girlfriend seated right beside him.
Morgan’s wife’s lawyers went into his hospital room while one of his legs was suspended up the air…with the cast wrapping it still damp. But that small little thing did not stop them…or any consideration to the amount of pain he may have been…while they served him with her divorce papers. Which based upon the reports has cost him far more pain than those few scratches from the actual impact of that accident.
But Tiger’s situation is a little bit different. They have small children. Being that Tiger chose to marry her…I am sure that he must have found some likeable or even highly redeeming qualities in his wife at the time he proposed then later married her. And as I have never seen much of her being out in public view…with all the cameras flashing about her…clearly she is not one of those people out to make a name or gain some type of fame for herself.
Of course she is angry. But what self-respecting woman wouldn’t be?
I have never been married but I do realize that if a relationship is worth keeping…and things can be worked out…or salvaged… then that is what should happen. Many times we have to put away our pride and hurt…and look at the bigger picture. And that is… (1) do I love this person… (2) can we make this work… (3) and be happy and a family in it?
And oh, yes…probably the biggest question of them all…(4) can I get over it…and allow us to move on in this marriage without it forever plaguing me?
And I am also hoping that this very public stumble…and that is what it is…not a fall but a stumble…will prove to be a valued lesson to Tiger in this his time of derision. And that he will go on to aid him in becoming the best father to his children…and husband to his wife…whom I really do hope that he loves since she is the mother of his children.
In my life I have had to learn so many lessons. Most of them were not easy to take…some embarrassing…some down right stupid… and some even shameful to me. But in the end they were lessons that I needed to learn. And I am now glad I had them…but at the time they hurt and were hard for me to take.
At the end of the day…will he be able to do it?
That is the question.
Well…he’s Tiger Woods isn’t he…still?
Though it is interesting just how quietly the whole episode of Charlie Sheen and his threatening his wife with a knife so quickly and quietly faded off the radar screen. Along with his other run in with the law…for driving under the influence (DUI). And nobody pulled any endorsements from up under him…or thought about cancelling his show.
I wonder why?
UPDATE: Thursday, February 19, 2010
John Edwards, numerous other politicans…such as the governor of New Jersey…now an ex-governor…Giuliani…aand others on Capital Hill…such as Bill Clinton…as well as numerous actors…such as Mel Gibson…and that list just goes on and on…not to mention other male athletes.
For some reason seem…not all…but many…just seem to have a problem keeping their pants up. And some of them…like it both ways…but yet poor Tiger is being dragged through the mud like this is some type of new phenomenon…like this never happened before. Oh, please…it happens so often who can keep count. And then when these guys are caught with anything other than a woman…then maybe they too are dragged through the mud and through the streets.
(Just DOUBLE CLICK the video below and ignor the text to view it)
And it is not that I am excusing Tiger. No, not at all. But to me…he is just a kid who recently lost his hero…I would assume that this is when all of this started happening. So, I feel for him…and you should too. And we all should hope that this situation will bring something positive and a new direction to his life. Something that he may have lost focus of in the passing of his father. It does happen.
So, no…Tiger Woods owes none of us nothing. All of his apologies should be directed to his wife…and his children. And possibly to his mother…who I am sure may also be very hurt by his behavior…and recent poor choices.
None of us can say that we have never made any mistakes…or so poor choices at some time in our life.
Why isn’t anybody calling for Charlie Sheen when he pull a knife out on his wife…or for his latest family blunder? Which seem to be an on-going thing with poor ol’ Charlie.
Just let Tiger alone. Clearly the thing is tearing him up. He looks so old. He definitely is in great need of someone positive to step into his life to aid him…and to give him some sure and positive advice concerning this matter…and who can aid him in being strong through it. He needs a strong male figure…some with business smarts and plenty of wisdom to replace that person who he once had. He need someone like the one he lost when his father died.
(Again just DOUBLE CLICK the video and ignor the text to view it)
It is my hope, however, that Tiger gets a grip upon his life…and not become too reliant upon pyscho-therapy…or Buddha…or Budhism…but upon God.
It has been exceedingly cold here. But then…it’s winter and it is suppose to be cold. And it is suppose to get colder.
Had to shovel a couple more times. But it was fun. And remarkably the house really isn’t all that cold…considering that furance is blown.
So, needless to say…I have been sleeping late and spending as much time as I can up under the blankets. And it is working…it is aiding me in staying warm. I am even writing this up under the blankets…but I am beginning to look forward to Spring already.
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