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I’m sorry but I can definitely not agree.
I understand how the world now feels that it must agree with every whim that comes rolling along, in order to not offend anyone.
But what about what is right?
Should we forsake everything that is right in order to appease everything in this world?
I think not. And I also believe it puts this world … though it has already been… on the road to destruction long ago… but it is just edging closer and closer to it.
It appears to me that we at this moment in history …we are creating our own pitfalls and devastation.
You cannot run with everything and believe you will finish the race successfully. Somewhere along the line something falls… or everything begins to fall out of your arms. This means you loose something.
We are loosing many things these days… and it mostly boils down to primarily loosing our way as people… as a civilization …as people who live in a ‘real world.’ Not a make-believe world… anything we want to be… or anything we want it to be world. But a REAL WORLD… with REAL WORLD ORDER… standards… qualifications… variety… and variances created by God. Not by us.
God created this world order. And He created it as He would have it to be.
Can man upset world balance?
Yes, man can.
When we go tinkering with things which we should not be tinkering with problems are sure to arise. And they have.
This whole cross dressing and transgender thing is going to destroy this planet. And this thing is booming.
There is a problem which arises when we start picking and choosing what gender we decide we should be. Or maybe what gender we decide we are going to raise our children as being… like saying you wanted a boy but got a girl.
So, you arbitrarily decide you are call your girl Sam and dress her only in clothes of boys… and have her live her life as Sam. And never let her in on the fact that she is a girl… but tell and teach her as if she is boy.
So, Sally grows up believing that she is Sam. Now, this is hypothetical. I just going somewhere with this scenario.
Now, Sally did not realize until some time in school that she … or rather he (Sam) was different from all the other boys. She noticed that perhaps she looked more like a girl. Then she noticed that she had started to develop breasts. When she was in the boy’s bathroom she noticed that she was missing something that all the other boys seem to have when they peed.
But you raised Sally believing that she was Sam.
You thought that you were God. That you could create whatever you wanted your child to be. When God gave you the child He had deemed for you… a girl… not a boy.
Now, Sam is having problems at school. He is disassociating from all the other kids. He feels that he does not fit in. He feels different.
Most of us grew up feeling different. Many of us grew up feeling like we didn’t fit in. These are natural emotions for kids to go through… except for those who happen be popular and always seem to be in the midst of plenty of people who rush to be with them.
But you weren’t 1 of them. When you look into the mirror you see somebody else. You feel like if you could be somebody else… that then you would be happy. Maybe you wish you were your sister or brother or a different sex. Or your mom or dad. And you begin to become that someone else.
Kids are always pretending… and playing make believe. But when does this become something else for some kids or teens… or even adults?
It becomes something else as long as you harbor or meditate of being that different person… that you begin to fantasize yourself to be. And after a while you meet up with someone… because it only takes 1 mixed up and highly confused person to send you on a trip you may never come back from… a trip to convert yourself into a fantasy you.
It is all make believe. Because we are who we are… and there is no changing it no matter how many pills are taken. How deep the voice may get… or how much facial hairs you get… or breasts you develop. You really can’t change you.
Oh, outwardly yes. But inwardly… no. And that inside person who really determines who you truly are. And it goes beyond your DNA… and THAT you definitely cannot change.
So, you change your name, your driver’s license, your city or town… and the pretense really begins. Because you are looking for a fresh start as this ‘new you.’
Though you may be able to deceive many people. The issue is… how long can you keep up the pretense. Because everyday you step out the door pretending to be who you were not born to be is really just a pretense… and you will never ever be able to get away from that.
What I find interesting is how in the world do people who go through all this really believe that becoming …or attempting to become another gender means that they are not gay?
Do they not want to engage in sexual activity with someone of the sex they are pretending to no longer be?
Then how can this not be gay behavior?
Oh, because you now associate yourself as the opposite sex… and call yourself ‘he’ rather than ‘she’… you believe that you automatically became the ‘he’ or ‘she’ you wanted to be?
Do not deceive yourself. It is all a charade. And the only 1 who got fooled was you.
Men who want men… are not going to go for a man who becomes a woman. Because if they wanted a woman they could get a ‘real’ woman… not some one pretending to be 1.
Women who love women… might like a dyke looking woman… many like that … but not all. But if a woman wanted a man, do you not believe she could find herself a ‘real’ man… and not someone playing and eating pills to be 1?
And therein lays the problem for these people who get these sex changes. They discover that that fantastic change that they were hoping for … that was going to make them happy ever after because they were now who and what they felt they had truly been born to be… wasn’t the happy every after that they hoped it would be.
Come on wake up.
So, no I’m not in agreement to the Boys Scouts of America allowing transgender girls into the scouts. Because primarily… because these girls are still girls. Down beneath they still have their vagina.
So, what happens if out on the trail a couple of over zealous boys decide to teach her a thing or 2?
As quietly as it is kept in the military this is quite an issue. Female women in the military get raped… and this happens in large numbers. Female girls on campuses get raped… and this too happens in large numbers… as much as most campuses try to squash it from getting out.
It is a reality.
And why would any girls really want to put herself through watching a bunch of boys with ranging hormones …taking a leak.
And no, I am not into transgender bathrooms either.
And I do not believe I have to go along in order to get along.
I will not forsake my core principles in order to make other people happy. I just cannot do it.
Do you really want me to become a liar by calling him ‘she’ when I know that he is not
I can’t go to hell trying to play other people’s games. I am sorry… and I mean you no
harm. But just do not ask me to play.
And I do not believe in being politically right… when politically right goes against my religious right to not lie… or condone lying or stealing… or deceiving… or fornicating… or adultery … and you know the rest. I just cannot.
So, don’t ask me. Because I have enough things that I may have to answer for of my own without me playing your game …adding to my list…
Now that I have addressed my thoughts on this subject please enjoy the rest of your week. And I know that I’ll get a few responses on this… but that’s is okay.
We are not all going to agree. But 1 thing is for sure we trying to agree on too many things… when most people who play like they agree really do not. So, at least I am honest. And I am not a hater… but a firm believer that the truth is the truth… and hopefully because I spoke truth somebody will be set free…
And anyone… so-called parent who does this thing purposely to their child or children really should be arrest for child abuse. Because they putting their child into the pit of hell… and creating for them a life that cannot lead them to any form of happiness by playing something that they are not.
Do not ruin the life of your child by making them a transgender child. One thing when a person who is old enough to decide certain things for themselves. And quite another when crazy parents do it to their children.
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Add a comment January 31, 2017
These young girls are receiving all the wrong messages and there is little being said about it. And forget…about ‘being done about it.’ Bcause that isn’t happening either.
The teen pact in Massachusetts was a shocker and should have created far more than just a wake-up call. It should have had people rolling out of their beds onto the floor and leaping up yelling-
“We’ve got to do something about this.”
But it did not. It was merely a hot topic for the moment…and then it was gone off the horizon.
What has since been done?
What heighten interest in this topic has been generated?
How many encounter groups have been formed to sincerely meet this problem head-on?
Where is the concern on this topic?
Teen sexual habits as they are today are highly serious problems. There is more at stake than a boy and girl getting together sexually. The problem is bigger than that and no one is really or sincerely looking into this problem. The issues and the impact are huge.
There are health issues involved…all kinds of dieases…many of which are life long. But this problem is also going to put millions more on the welfare rows.
Under age girls becoming mothers does impact us all and it should be all of our concerns. It is a moral issue…but it is even greater than that. And this concern is not only to what it will cost the states and eventually the federal government of this country, but there should also be a concern that these young girls are no more than mere kids themselves. Beyond a point the level of resentment does arise. And these kids have no knowledge that they are severely limiting their future life goals, expectations and levels of success…and choices in life.
While the kids are suppose to be busy going back and forth to school every day…they now have to balance their education with trying to parent babies or very young children. This can be a very daunting task for young parentsas babies and/or children take up a lot of time. It is even a very difficult task for the most grown-up adults to handle.
Children take time…and lots of it. They also require responsible and reasonable people in the care of them. Young girls under the age of 12 of even into their 20s or 30s many times are not ready for such a heavy responsibility nor the sacrafices that becoming a mother calls for.
Instead of chasing behind the gay population and trying to change them, and trying to get them to conform when laws are being created every day to encourage just the opposite…we should try working instead to make an impact in an area where we all have some level of control and a voice and that is among our children.
Oftentimes, the argument about education gets down to ‘the home’…well, this argument certainly is a ligitmate argument in this debate…as things in ‘the home’ can lead to effecting change.
Whether parents realize it or not…they can regulate their homes, the type of messages that their children are receiving, what is watched and listened to in ther homes…etc… But it is far more involved than just putting a chip in the cable system to block certain programming. It means getting your child’s face off myspace, out of facebook and whatever or wherever else it is…or whatever means they use to to make contact and meet people with whom they are enaging in sex…which on the face of it alone even sounds and looks wrong.
I personally don’t believe that anybody worth meeting is on the internet. You, if you are an adult, you should not indulged in it…and certainly your children should not. Yes, the internet has it values and good uses, but it also has a lot of risk factors…and safety issues when it comes to your children, teens…and even for older people who never learned that….yes, the world can be full of evil people who lie and try to sway you into dangerous places and situations. Predators are real…and none of you should have to find this out first hand.
But the kids are not alone when it comes to the internet. There are tons of grown up supposedly adult people who are doing the exact same thing. They have pages on myspace and pictures in facebook etc. And it is all wrong if you use it like a game of Russian roulette.
There is little wonder why the kids are in the situation that they are in if the adults are setting the examples or…and I hate to say this…or if the adults in their lives are following their examples…the kids examples in meeting people and becoming sexually involved with just anybody and everybody via the internet. Or even outside of meeting them over the internet.
What in the world is this world coming to?
What is the world is that?
There is too much tied in to sex…just the inter-personal nature of it alone. Call it what you want…but sex is not casual…it is just too intimate for that.
It is all wrong. WRONG….WRONG.
And of course, I know that the kids are hooking up at school too. Let’s face it now…even I at some point was a kid. But I never was stupid…and there is just no other way to say that. Nor was I…or have I ever been common.
There is something seriously wrong when a bunch of young girls are busy thinking more about getting pregnant than they are about the dress they plan of wearing to their class prom…or how they are going to get their mom to give them the money to go to movies next weekend.
There is something wrong when sex is the only thing on the fore-minds of young kids in school…more so than trying to study for an exam or thinking about their futures.
They do not care about an exam…or evidently their futures. No, they do not. Because if they did they wouldn’t be busy trying to get pregnant…or thinking about getting pregnant.
When I was growing up people tried hard to avoid getting pregnant. But then he standards of the day have been drastically lowered as opposed to those of yester-year. In fact, there are none…not today.
When did getting pregnant at a very early age become a badge of honor in this country?
And how can these kids be expected to do any better than the people they are watching and trying to emulate present these kinds of things to them day in and day out?
These kids are obsessed with images of the people they consider to be so-called stars. These so-called stars…they read about them, skim through the web to catch photos of…watch them in the movies or on television…and/or listen to on their iPods. And these people are their role models…whom they desire to emulate in every possible way…down to having babies by this one and by that one over there. And they never see a marriage ring or a wedding band.
That is the world our many of kids live in…and many adults, as well. That is why they can search facebook or myspace…and go from one person to the next. Because they live in a world of ‘no commitment.’ There parents are not committed to them. There teachers aren’t committed to them. Their schools aren’t committed to them…the government…society…nothing.
So, what do you expect…when a stranger over the internet shows them more interest than you do?
Even if it is for a hot minute. To them it beats none at all…no matter what they end up having to sacrifice.
Parents have got to invest time in…and quality time with their children. They need us to be concern about them…about their day…what’s going on with them…and the things we can help them with…as well as to encourage them…and, of course, to look out for their well being, as well as, protect them. There has to be quality time invested in your children’s lives all through their development…even into adulthood…if they allow you. And they will…if they trust you…but that trust is built up over time. That trust comes with involvement in their lives from the earliest stages of their lives straight throughout their developedment into adulthood.
It is time for America to not just take a serious look at this problem of teen and under age sex…but also to actively work to do something to cuve it. This tide must be stemmed because of the dire future consequences for America.
These young babies need to have a fighting chance at life. And they can’t do that by being born to people who are not mature enough to parent them properly.
The cost, to the system upon whom they will soon be imposing, should not become the driving force to make this country face this problem today.
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Add a comment November 19, 2008
The boy was talking to her like she was nothing but a tunnel down there…and you probably know where and what I am talking about.
Though she was none in the least embarrassed, I was embarrassed for her.
After thinking about it for a while, I now understand why.
Those very girls and boys which I had discussed in prior blogs “Teen Pregnancy Pact” etc…those are the same little boys and girls who were mothers and fathers in grade school. Well, maybe not exactly them…but it wasn’t for a lack of trying. They just didn’t get caught…meaning ‘they had not gotten pregnant.’
This girl whom the boy in the lab was talking to…well, they spoke so….so casual…ly. She to him and him to her. That one would have thought that such blatant and insulting conversation was the norm and alright.
And if any of you says it is…I will strongly beg to differ.
That young girl is an example of what is emerging out of the school system where kids get to talk about sex and act out in ways…which…which frankly should never be allowed.
No man should ever call a woman a tramp (even in an around about way…or in mild causual conversation)…unless he first stops acting as one himself. And even then it is not allowable.
And believe me…there was nothing ’round about’ in the way this boy was talking to that girl.
But why are women so degraded?
Why are we the ones ‘de-valued’?
The young girl would not be one among many of the campus whores…and I am very sorry to say that…and it really hurts me to have to call it as such…but it is true…if the male population were carrying themselves a lot better too.
You would have had to have heard the conversation to know what I am talking about. And for her to sit there talking with him as he laid out all her whorish shortcomings…espisode after episode…to her without so much as a grimace or a sidewise glance from her?
It was appalling.
This speaks volumes as to how far off the mark these young girls…young ladies…and yes…I guess….young women have fallen. They are far off course. And all the sex education in the world has done nothing for them…but allowed them to feel more and more like sexual objects. And very much for lack of saying it in any other way…and they “get down with that.”
For them it is okay. And even seems as though they enjoy it…being known as the ‘girl who will throwdown’ or ‘go down on anyone.’ UGH!!!!!
I wish someone would dare to talk to me as if I were common.
I am not common.
I am not going to be common.
Only to cast me off and turn me out to pasture like some old broken down nag.
And then have them laughing…and talking about me?
These young girls have no pride. And many older women do not either.
Maybe, it is that I think too much of myself?
But this thing is really ashame. And the problem is…is that the same standards are not allotted towards men. Throughout history the male speices if you will…has been given a free ride (excuse the pund) when it has come down to issues of morality. If this had not been the case and was not the case today there is a chance that this topic and the approaches to it would be different in our world today. But since the beginning of time for men in almost every country the standards have differed greatly from those applied towards women. Morality has never stretched both sides of the aisle.
However, this would not in any more way justify such talk…but it could create a level of standards on both party’s part. The boy in the lab, who was maybe all of 24, clearly didn’t see anything wrong in the behavior of either himself or any of his friends who were hopping on top of this girl. Nor did he think it disrespectful to her to speak so loudly so that the entire lab could hear that sickening conversation. And nor did she in her own ignorance care whether everyone heard.
But why should she be any more of a whore then they?
Are they not all engaged in the same thing?
Will there ever come a time again…when men protected women’s valor rather than trampled all over it?
Oh, yes…by the way…that conversation was not between a black male and black female student. As typically many people believe that only certain groups carry on in certain ways. This issue of sex…pre-martial sex…sex in grade school…etc…etc…is a very big issue…and it involves everybody.
I am appalled because I have young nieces and nephews coming up in a culture that believes everything is alright…as long as it feels good. Everything is not…alright. Whether it feels good…or not.
As old fashion as this may sound…what it really does boils down to just one plain thing…‘self-respect.’ I don’t know how many times I used to overhear older people say that when I was growing up…but not today. I haven’t heard it in years. But it is what we have to teach our children, nieces, nephews etc. They must learn how to respect themselves first. Then they will be able to ensure and enforce that respect among their friends and peers.
That may sound like a too simplified cure to such a big and overwhelming problem as responsible living and sex given todays sexual culture…but self-respect is the beginning root to a successful life. Without it how does one grow, accomplish or achieve anything in life?
Well, we are inching closer to the finish line…Election Night 2008. It will be a big and exciting night for many reason. May God bless America!
Even the little ones support Obama!
Even the little ones support Obama!
Even the little ones support Obama!
It gives me such hope for this country. It really does.
There is no country like this one.
There is no place at all…like the United States of America.
Through all her adversities, contradictions…missteps…and fall downs…American is great. And she is beautiful…though there have been times in her history when people, Presidents, groups didn’t always act justly, fairly or truthfully. But through it all she has maintained her beauty…and she is worth everything we can do to save her.
In closing…let me take this time to clarify once again…that Barack Obama is not just a phenomena because he is black.
No, it is far greater than that.
That is what America has much to be proud of…because he is a product of her. It has taken us much and a long time to get here. But we are here. And at the end of the day…it does matter. It really really does…for everyone’s sake.
Perhaps a decent wholesome Obama family in the White House is what this country is in dire need of to get her morally back on the right track, as well. The kids certainly need other role models other than the ones they follow in Hollywood and the Rapp world…and certainly other than the likes of a Britney Spears to pattern themselves behind.
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Add a comment October 30, 2008
One of the dumbest things I ever heard. A pregnancy pact???? 17 school girls????
Oh, that is what we always hear as if parents can really control what they teenagers…or smaller children are really doing. Most of them we don’t really even know. What kids show at home and what they do at school or in other public places when parents aren’t around are two different things.
The only way you can really combat this kind of thing is to train up your kids…I really hate that word…as if they were a bunch of baby goats…train up your children so that they possess their own minds and truly know the difference between right and wrong…and will deter from the wrong things in life. Now, that is hard…it really is hard as the core of it goes to who your children truly are as people.
Some children are naturally just not going to do certain things no matter how much other kids try to push them to do so. I was one those. Even as an adult, people would always be trying to get me to go against something that I just did not want to do. I don’t know how many people tried to encourage me to drink, smoke, have sex and get high…and most of the time most of those occasions were not even inter-related. But there was something in me…maybe it is just DNA…but I was different and no amount of peer-pressure could make me do most of those things. Though sometimes I would give in just a bit…and take a sip because they would keep pushing. But what was not for me was not for me…and beyond that tiny sip…that was it. No. And never again…and I meant it.
But today’s kids, children, teens, young-adults etc. are inundated by a plethora of influences that quite frankly pale to anything that came my way. With the main influence being sex and primarily sex before marriage and extremely early in age.
And it is really not their problem since we are really the culprits.
Having grown up in a time when sex was never spoken, never allowed to be alluded to in songs or seen on screen or tv…when we finally became of age and had the power to do so “we” unleashed the sexual revolution. “We” head the corporation smearing sex all over the place. “We” hire the models, write the copy, shoot the ads, pay the artist and determine who will or will not be the next super-star…not the kids…they just suck it up.
We have done it. We were the rebels who have set today’s trends by promoting, exploiting and setting the trends and styles that have imploded into today’s sexual revolution. “We” set in the forefront who the kids idolize and emulate. And “we” all may not have had a personal hand in it…but just how much have “we” done to stop it? Nothing.
So, now our kids are so bent out shape “we” don’t know what to do. It is as though Pandora’s Box has been opened and now there is no turning back or trying to strove all these ill’s we’ve unleashed back inside.
High schools and Jr. High schools (middle schools) are populated with little mothers and fathers walking through their hallways today. Kids who should have nothing more on their minds than tomorrow’s exam but today you find them having to rush home to breast feed their babies.
They have forsaken their innocents to dip and dap at something which they have no complete meaning or understanding of other than it feels good.
So, why should 17 highly foolish young girls in Massachusetts who make a pack to all get pregnant shock us so much when all they read in magazines or watch on tv are a bunch of people in Hollywood…mostly unmarried getting pregnant and glorifying motherhood and fatherhood…for as long as the cameras are shooting.
But they…the kids…they don’t know the reality. Those people they go goo-goo over…when the cameras go off they (those stars) turn around and hand their baby’s over to the nanny while they go off and hit Sunset Blvd. or Wilshire Blvd. partying into the wee hours of the morn.
So, who should “we” blame?
I have never been an advocate of Sex Education in the classroom…believe or not I once had the luxury of subbing a Sex Ed class once for high students. Take it from me they were leaps and bounds beyond me…but in terms of sex that’s not so hard to be. I was stunned really by the pictures in the book of the venereal diseases…they were more than enough to make anyone push back from the table. But I guess such pictures don’t have the same affect on the kids…because they still indulge as though none of this stuff is true.
But going back to my story…if you knew me…you would know that I would be the last person to put in a Sex Ed class to teach it. After all what do I know? Nothing. I will be the first to admit it…and probably not the only person to say it. Because I have friends who can attest to it. And that is exactly my point…who do they have teaching your kids this junk? They don’t have be certified to teach Sex Ed. It is usually tied to what used to be Home Economic Class…you do remember those classes don’t you? Where they taught you how to sew and cook. Well, do you remember your Home Economics teacher? Is that really the person you want teaching your child sex????
Now, here is why I have never been big on Sex Ed in school…or anywhere else really…I mean really…who is teaching the animals? Some of this stuff is just natural. But anyways, I do believe in abstinence…having the ability to forbear somethings…in life many things. This is paramount to success.
I feel for those 17 school girls who were somehow encouraged to enter into a pact that will certainly impact them for the rest of their lives and those whom they will bring into this world.
Parenting is no joke…and certainly is not a game.
At last…I have gotten around to writing another blog. This is hard work you know? I can’t imagine trying to do it everyday. I mean I do have a life you know? (smile) God bless… ©2008
1 comment June 23, 2008